6/12/2018: Keeping the Peace After You Are Gone

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Keeping the Peace After You Are Gone

Planning With an Aim Towards Building


A will or trust contest can wreak havoc on

families. The conflict can result in possibly

irreparable resentment and loss of familial

communication. Old rivalries and disputes

can resurface during the trying time that

occurs after the death of a loved one,

especially a parent. But careful estate

planning can help you substantially reduce

the risk, or even avoid this problem


Let’s take a look at a few of the ways you

can build your estate plan to minimize

family conflicts after you’re gone.

· Keep your plan up-to-date: An up-to-date estate plan can help you preserve family

unity after death or in the event of incapacity. Even if you have put an estate plan in

place in recent years, estate planning is an ongoing process and needs attention at

regular intervals. An out-of-date plan can become misaligned with your goals, new laws,

and policies, rendering it less effective and more likely to generate conflict (the last

thing you want).

· Select key individuals in your plan: You can give certainty to your family and make your

wishes easier to carry out by selecting the right people as your key players in carrying

out your estate plan. Make sure that you’ve thoughtfully selected the right people to

carry out your estate plan. A few of the key individuals you’ll have to select:

o Successor trustee – This person will manage your trust’s assets when you are

unable to do so.

o Executor – This person is appointed in your will to manage your probate estate if

one is needed. In many cases, you may select the same person as your successor


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trustee. However, if you don’t, remember that your executor must work closely

with your successor trustee to ensure that everything is handled smoothly and

in a timely fashion.

o Health care proxy – This person is authorized to communicate with your medical

providers and make medical decisions if you are unable to do so.

o Financial agent – This person is authorized to make financial decisions on your

behalf. They will likely need to work closely with your successor trustee, or you

may designate the same person to serve in both roles.

· Share your wisdom: By sharing your stories and wisdom (through ethical wills, intent

letters, personal stories, videos, etc.) you can help your family understand the legacy

you want to leave so that the wealth you’re leaving doesn’t become a distraction or

point of contention.

· Don’t try to DIY: While it might be tempting to cut corners and take your estate plan

into your own hands, taking a do-it-yourself approach is never wise. This sets the stage

for potentially inadequate planning, which increases the likelihood of will or trust

contests and will likely mean your estate isn’t distributed how you’d like it to be in the

end. Let your estate planning attorney do the heavy lifting — we’re always here to help.

· Be clear about your intentions: Are you planning on giving more of your total assets to

one child than the others? Or are there other ways in which your estate planning goals

may upset some of your beneficiaries (or those who aren’t beneficiaries)? It can be a

very tricky subject to broach, but if you foresee hurt feelings, consider being as clear as

possible about your wealth distribution plans with those individuals. This will limit the

potential for confusion and disagreement down the road. It may – or may not – make

sense to explain this to your family. But, it’s always incredibly important to let us know

the reasons so we can develop a rock-solid legal strategy for your goals.

· Consider discretionary trusts: If you have a child or other potential beneficiary who

struggles with addiction, mental health problems, or other conditions that could hinder

their ability to use their inheritance in a healthy way, you might want to consider a

discretionary trust. With this type of trust, you can control the disbursements based on

your beneficiary meeting certain requirements — such as attending a treatment

program or enrolling in higher education. This can help you treat each child fairly by

taking into consideration what is best for each child’s unique situation.

Will or trust contests can tear a family apart, and can also be time-consuming, costly, and

embarrassing for the family that remains. If someone who feels slighted by your estate plan can

convince the court that your will or trust is invalid, chaos can break loose and your intended

beneficiaries can lose their inheritances. Typical reasons a family member might use to say your

estate plan is invalid are that it wasn’t signed, you didn’t have the capacity to make the estate

planning decisions you made, the documents were fraudulent, or that you were pressured or

influenced to sign documents.

Let us help you make sure that none of these events unfold. We’re here to guide you every step

of the way through creating and maintaining a timely, robust, and strategic estate plan. Give us

a call today to make sure your plan is current and includes all the necessary provisions to keep a

contest from occurring in the future.

This newsletter is for informational purposes only and is not intended to be construed as written advice about a

Federal tax matter. Readers should consult with their own professional advisors to evaluate or pursue tax,

accounting, financial, or legal planning strategies.

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